Passing success down to younger generations

I’m not quite certain where to even begin. Today left me stunned and consumed with emotion. Honestly, it’s the feeling of being damn proud. Gymnastics has been apart of my life for over twenty years. Most recently making the transition from gymnast to coach. Let me tell you, its surreal. Today I walked into a gym that I had competed at numerous times in my career. The last time being fourteen years ago as a level six gymnast. I was putting my team up against judges and coaches that had been around since I was competing. I don’t know how to put this all into words for you. Today I looked at the sport I’ve loved my entire life with a new perspective. All the little things I remembered from competing, I now understand. For example, always seeing my coaches running off between sessions to disappear for a few moments and then magically reappear. Now I know they were filling their bellies in the coach’s room. I realize when my coaches said it was a long day… what that actually entails. (Currently my body is aching and my head is pounding).

I am the head coach of a compulsory team. Yes, my own little group of ten nuggets. That title is finally starting to sink in for me. As I continue onward in my journey, I have found my own style of coaching. The development of kids as gymnasts is important; however, I care more about my nuggets evolving into good humans over all else. I do my best to instill values into my nuggets that will resonate with them forever by teaching them to respect each other through the usage of good verbiage and being vigilant with their delivery on things. My focus is on building them up rather than tearing them down. Communication is huge and I am not one who believes in the power of yelling. I coach with this philosophy every day.

Today was the first competition of the season and my level 3 compulsory gymnastics team finished in third place. As a coach, I take a lot of pride in their success. Yes, they put the work in, but it has been a long and bumpy road to get here. All the girls did fantastic. They hit solid routines that went above and beyond my expectations. The best part wasn’t the scores. It was the fact that each kid walked in the building with a smile on their face and walked about with their heads held high. My girls truly became a family today. They expressed so much love and excitement for each other. It was cool to see.

Often times, I ponder what I can be doing to better myself as a coach to help better my kids. One thing I’ve thought a lot about is redefining success. Redefining what it means and how it is obtained. Of course, this is a results-based sport and scores matter, but do they really? What I am trying to say is stop putting such an emphasis on them. Teach kids that the scores aren’t the only thing that determines your success in your gymnastics career. Your attitude plays a huge role. What are you bringing to the gym that day? It all matters. Did you pay attention to your teammate and support them while they were competing or did you wait in anticipation for your score? I believe this mindset changes everything. It brings real value to this tough and grueling sport.

Historically success means something that comes close after or simply an outcome. Not a bad or a good outcome, just an outcome. In order to get an outcome, you need to do to something. All you have to do is make a move.

Any sort of outcome works for success because an outcome is simply something that comes out as the result of something else. If you want to define success as a good outcome, you want to be sensible in what you include here. There are an infinite number of ways in which an outcome can be seen as good. For example, in gymnastics, getting a 10.0 would be seen as a good outcome because that is the highest score you can achieve in the sport.

Instead of teaching kids a narrowed black and white version of defining success, what if we encouraged them to make choices for continued success. What does that look like?

1.      Show Up

Showing up is the best place to start. Success is not one single act. It is making the decision to choose a path that best suits your journey. If you want to be able to do a back flip, then you better be showing up to practice every day and working the fundamental skills. That is success. That is putting your self one step closer to achieving you goal.

2.      Keep Reaching for the Next Thing

You can choose to make success happen at any moment.

It’s weird being here now. I still have so many emotions flowing through me at the moment. All I want to do is stand up and scream to the world just how amazing my kids are. They are amazing gymnasts and amazing little humans. To be honest I care about these kids as if they were my own. My heart feels so full that its over spilling. I felt like I had a lot to prove today, but no one to prove it to other than myself. WE KILLED IT.

XO Coach Yuki

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Expectations

Expectation feeds frustration. What screws us up the most in life is the preconceived picture in our head of how things are. We have to learn to drop the ambiguous ideas. As I get older, I find my understand deepens. I can integrate lessons, draw from my experiences, and make better connections.

Over the weekend I competed in an Olympic weightlifting competition. It has been almost a year since my last competition. Within the last month I had an epiphany. Basically, I cannot live without weightlifting. It builds my confidence and makes me feel strong. I have a sever passion for the sport. So, I signed up for a local competition and started training. At the beginning of the first 4 weeks I told myself this was just a competition to shake off the dust. Nothing to prove and no one to prove it to. As it came closer to competition day, I found myself nervous. I was already counting myself out. My shoulders felt heavy with pressure. Where was this pressure coming from? Expectations. These expectations came solely from myself. There was an expectation to hit my old numbers. To be stronger than I was before. Suddenly, I didn’t feel ready for the competition. I felt discouraged and upset. Luckily, I have a good support team of coaches who constantly reminded me there were no expectation for this competition. My only job was to do me and lift. I thought about why I was putting so much pressure on myself. I reminded myself of where I am at in my journey and that I just started lifting again. I went into the competition clear-headed.

At the competition I went 6/6. I made all of my lifts! I hit 59kg for snatch and 73kg for my clean and jerk. Once I dropped my expectations, I made an active decision to live in the moment. It was one of my best meets ever. My lifts were flawless and smooth. I was able to appreciate being surrounded by good friends and other good lifters. I challenge you: if you have felt the pressure lately, drop the expectations you have set for yourself. You will never feel freer.

Sending all my love, xo

 Here are my lifts, ENJOY!!!

 

A Leap of Faith

Cheers to new beginnings. Sometimes we may like the sound of that phrase; however, our body gives us a fight or flight response. Change is scary. As human beings, we are creatures of habit. We enjoy the comfort of a routine. 

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Change is inevitable. Without change there would be no growth. Think about it scientifically for a second. We all love sunny days (who doesn’t), But if it never rained the grass would never grow, flowers would never bloom, and we’d never see the leaves change colors. Does that analogy make sense? Think about your life for a second. If you’re my age, you’ve probably already experienced the joys of puberty LOL. If you didn’t go through that change you would’ve never gotten taller, you would’ve never gotten boobs, and you would’ve never gotten your period; hence you would’ve never crossed the threshold into womanhood. Without change in our life we can’t grow. As scary as it is to think about if we never move out of our parents’ house, we don’t know what will become of us. One of the scariest times in life for me was graduating college. After four years of pure certainty or what felt like certainty it’s over in the blink of an eye. After graduation your set free to “start your life”. What does that statement even actually mean? After I graduated college in 2017, I landed on my face. I hit the ground hard. I thought I had everything planned out and all my affairs in order. Just to realize that I didn’t have anything controlled. The biggest thing that was out-of-control was my mindset and my emotions. I work so hard, trying to control the uncontrollable. I was so scared. Honestly, I am still scared. What I’ve come to realize is we cannot control everything that happens to us. I’ve learned to become aware of and be conscious of my state of mind or my state of being. How do I feel in this moment? How do I feel today? Do I have good thoughts flowing in my head? Am I feeding myself with positive vibes? 


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There is no manual for life. There is no “do this and you’ll be great”. My advice to you is trust your gut. Make choices that make you happy. You are the one that has to live with those choices. Live your life for you. As you move forward, know that there will be uncertainty and that’s OK. Sometimes it’s OK to not know what the future looks like. Just have faith and trust that you are moving in the right direction.  Believe fully in yourself and you will succeed. That is what goes into taking a leap of faith. Don’t just close your eyes and cross your fingers because that’s when shit hits the fan. Believe in yourself, I believe in you. 


Sending all my love, 

XO

p.s. Here’s a link to my YouTube video with more pictures from this photo shoot!

I AM ENOUGH

There is nothing to prove and no one to prove it to. Life is like the ocean, constantly flowing. Happiness comes in waves. Some days may have large swells and others are cool and calm. No matter what life goes on, the waves will keep crashing the shore. It is okay to feel negative emotion. It is okay to cry. That doesn’t make you weak – it makes you human. A bad day can be just that. One bad day, not a bad life. Tomorrow is a new day. A fresh start. Beautiful, don’t dwell on the past. Learn from your mistakes and continue to grow into your future. Nobody is perfect. Pick yourself. Go out and be great! Choose happiness. Choose love. You always have a choice. Make success happen today.

I am slowly learning that life is made up of good and bad. Life cannot exist without one or the other. There is a homeostatic balance to uphold. I am learning mistakes make us human. I am learning failures help us to grow. I am falling in love with the path of deep healing; taking care of myself. I am enough, I always have been enough, and I always will be enough.

Love you always,

XO

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Let Your Inner Lion Roar: The Path to Finding Your Strength

We all set out on this wild journey in hopes to make something of ourselves and figure out our shit along the way. Unfortunately, there is no handbook or guide to life, just a lot of trial and error. Strength grows in moments when we think we cannot go anything further and make a choice to do so anyways.


As young adults, the expectation is to overcome obstacles thrown in our direction. At twenty-two years old that is a lot of pressure weighing on one’s shoulders - (At any age for that matter). Finding your strength is not an easy task. You have to find it; learn to harness it. Being strong is a mental practice. It is making commitments; stop feeling sorry for yourself. Embrace change with open arms. Change is one of the scariest things of all, but forces us to grow. Strength is about learning, don’t waste energy on the things that cannot be controlled. There is only one thing on this earth that we can control – our own thoughts. Be willing to take control and allow yourself to feel everything. You are entitled to your emotions. Practice celebrating other people’s success rather than waste precious time on resentment.

 

I saw many dark days after I graduated college in December, 2017. I had a whirlwind of a time following. I lived in Missouri for a year and worked just to survive. I had no idea what I wanted out of life. I am writing this post from my bedroom in my parent’s home in Wisconsin. After I graduated college, I lost myself. My soul focus was on the next step and how to become successful; I drowned myself in work. Society helped me create a blueprint of what my life at twenty-two should look. I felt the pressures to lead a happy life and have my shit together, but in reality, I was spiraling out of control. What life has taught me thus far is there are no rules and there are no boundaries; except the ones we put on ourselves. We create our own blueprints for our own lives. It is okay to fail. Failure breeds success. If you are going to fail, fail forward. I had to overcome many obstacles to get to where I am today. Yes, I am presently living at my parent’s house; however, I am in the midst’s of launching my online business. Through the hard times, I had to dig deep within myself. I had to tell myself to keep going even when all I wanted to do was lay in bed. I found my strength and continue to practice it every day.

 

Strength comes to us in a single moment. When we decide to keep going. I found my strength and I hope you find yours too. XO